At some stage in most peoples lives, someone will have used an Internet dating website or app. I love a good app, and I love being social, so combining the two and making dating apps was something that I loved. Now, I am quite extraverted and have no problems talking to a guy or girl at the bar or speaking to people in the smoking area of clubs (even though I don’t smoke) but for those who are a little more reserved I totally get that dating apps and websites are the ideal for those who don’t necessarily put themselves out there.
Don’t get me wrong, I have met some people on dates and have enjoyed experiences I have had through Tinder and HER but the cons far outweigh the pros for me. Online dating does have its pitfalls and here are some of my thoughts that I have found that has made me delete the apps altogether.
Who messages anymore?
You match and then they don’t message you or you don’t message them. We’ve both indicated that we find each other attractive so why is there no communication?
The messages that you do get are gross
“Wanna come over? ;)” Sorry but I am not interested in leaving the comfort of my own home to go to your place for a one night thing without having a genuine conversation with you first.
Constant messaging without me replying surely indicates something, right?
If you keep messaging me all soppy stuff such as “You have really beautiful eyes”, “Let me take you out”, “You’re so beautiful” and then I don’t reply which leads to that person then saying “Helloooo?”, “I know this is too forward but…” Yes it is too forward and I haven’t responded because I am not interested. I can’t be dealing with your mild harassment, leave me alone please!
There isn’t ever any chemistry with anybody
Now, I have enjoyed having my boredom cured by swiping left and right and chatting but most conversations ultimately die after a few exchanges and if you do meet up with somebody the likelihood is it won’t happen as often as you expect. I genuinely can’t have chemistry with someone online without meeting them in person.
I’m bored of the dead end conversations
*match, communicate, conversations last about two-three days if you’re lucky and then nothing.* This tends to be a common routine and I’m kind of bored of wasting my time with people I am not communicating with in real life when I am using a “dating app”. I’m not dating anybody; I’m just messaging for a few days and then it dying. This isn’t dating for me.
You actually end up going on a date with somebody
I have actually met people from the app but because we have met through a dating app there is always the thought process that they’re seeing someone else and/or messaging loads of other girls or guys. When is the appropriate time to delete the dating apps on your phone when you’re seeing someone? Is it needed? Aren’t they going to still be on the apps for a while?
You think you’re genuinely having an alright time with somebody and then all of a sudden you or them ghost. Now, I will hold my hands up and say that I am guilty of this but even so when it happens to you, you’re all of a sudden like hold up what did I do? One day you’re being told how amazing you are and then all of a sudden… Ghost, nothing. I don’t know if this is pivotal more so with Internet dating or not but it can be common. Does anyone actually have successful long lasting relationships that have begun on Tinder? If so, hats off to you and well done. I just don’t see it being realistic for me being a uni student.
Single life temptation
I’ve been single for most of my uni life and have loved it. I don’t want something serious at this age and I’m cool with that, but if things move to the next stages of online dating and you have met someone great it is then like, wait I can’t use my dating apps anymore? Where is the line drawn? At this point in my life I am not looking for anything serious but dating apps have kind of become an obsessions and I can’t help but swipe.
I get that dating in real life can have these issues as well but online dating has never really given me all that much in terms of dating, and I’ve probably wasted too many hours of my life on Tinder and HER, getting very little out of it. Because of that I have decided to delete my profiles. I am sure I will re-download them one day in the future, but for now I’m done with them. I mean, I’m gonna be realistic here, I probably will re-download the apps when I’m feeling lonely again, but for now, I’m bored of it all.
What are the issues that you face with online dating and have you ever wanted to delete the apps or have deleted them like I have?
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